A friend posted an article called “Confessions: 7 Reasons Why Women Cheat” (http://www.atlnightspots.com/2011/confessions-7-reasons-why-women-cheat) & I wanted to delve more into the reasons cited & identify which I believe are true & which I think are crap.
Reason #1: There’s no passion
This is probably the ultimate reason that women cheat, at least in my opinion. Relationships take work, but if the passion isn’t there even once you have put the work in, then really you should be breaking up with the boyfriend. Some people find that hard though because it’s usually these less passionate men that provide the stability that we as women feel we need. It makes for a pretty boring life. You should take the risk & end things with the less passionate boyfriend & find someone who gets your blood pumping & your heart racing.
Reason #2: To Delay a Break-Up
I disagree with reason for cheating. The girl in this situation details how her boyfriend lost his job & it was just an unlucky time in his life, in which he is getting bad news after bad news. You can’t stay with someone just because you don’t want to make their life harder at a time of hardships. It isn’t fair on you & you are just prolonging the inevitable. It will just hurt all the more when you do break up with them. You have to be strong, & the time may be ridiculously off, you can’t just stay in a relationship out of pity.
Reason #3: Because absence doesn’t make the heart grow fonder
Everyone knows that long-distance relationships are hard work. You shouldn’t enter into one unless you are prepared for the feelings of loneliness. It’s not a situation that I have ever really been in, in my adult life, but I know that it’s hard work. The effort has to be put in by both parties. Cheating because you are lonely when you have entered into a long-distance thing is just stupid. You shouldn’t have gotten into the long-distance situation in the first place, & if it isn’t working, then you break up before you start to see someone else. Right?
Reason #4: To avoid being left out in the cold
This reason is lame. You can’t have your cake & eat it too. This situation which is detailed as a girl who was in a relationship which the boyfriend ended, she found someone else then the boyfriend came back into the picture begging her to give it another go. Instead of ending it with the other guy, she proceeded to date both to ensure that she wouldn’t be alone if one of them fell apart. I disagree with this attitude to cheating. You can’t keep someone on the back burner as an “insurance policy” in case the relationship you really want to be in doesn’t work out. That isn’t fair on the other guy, & you wouldn’t want a guy to do that to you, would you? You have to jump & take that risk.
Reason #5: To make a break from a bad relationship
This reason is totally legit in my opinion. This girl details how critical her boyfriend was of her, & it wasn’t until she saw the light with someone else that she could see that her current relationship was not healthy for her. I can relate to this reason whole-heartedly.
Reason #6: To find that missing piece
The girl in this scenario says that she cheated because her boyfriend “was a total city boy” & didn’t really like going to the beach, etc. This probably came to light in the early days of the relationship & if she didn’t like that he was a city dweller & didn’t like the outdoors, then surely, she should have ended it then. Guys are stubborn in what they like & don’t like to do or go. Did she really think that would change? She cheated on him 8 months into the relationship because it was “what he deserved for being so stubborn”. I just don’t get this at all.
Reason #7: To give him a taste of his own medicine
The girl that gives her rendition of why she cheated makes it sound like this is a perfect reason to cheat! It isn’t really a reason to cheat, just because you heard rumours that he was seeing other girls & then talked to his “secret girlfriend” about a 3 month relationship. If she was really worried about it, she would have ended it when the first rumours started. Men always deny everything & admit to nothing. And if she broke up with him after that night, why didn’t she break up with him before seeing someone else? I think this reason is a lame excuse for cheating. You just bring yourself down to his level & you should not want to be at that level anyway. If he doesn’t realize what he’s got, then that’s on him.