I don’t know why we put ourselves through it really… The whole dating thing. Surely, we’d be better off just sitting at home with our friends than “fishing” and trying to reel them in. It’s so funny because this is the first time I have ever done the whole Online Dating thing, and I find it really interesting, even if slightly irritating at times.
I’m using a free online dating site that seems to have quite a few members on it (apparently, there are 30,000 new members added everyday). It’s like weeding though, instead of fishing. Because you sit around trying to decide who is genuine and who is just there on the pull. It’s like wading through knee high weeds trying to find the flowers.
And it’s quite a ridiculous thing to do, to talk to and meet up with “strangers”. What if they aren’t as they seemed? What if they lied to you about who they are? You put a lot of faith in these “strangers” when you agree to risk your, erm, safety (?) to meet up with them, don’t you? So then what happens if he really does turn out to be a stalker, psycho or a serial rapist? You’d never know it until it’s too late.
So, it begs the question, why do we do it? Why do we put ourselves out there in such a way? I suppose people would argue that you take the same risks meeting someone in a bar, and at least, for me, online dating allows you to be really open. It’s as if because these people are “strangers” and they’ve never met you, and don’t (usually) have preconceived notions about what you will be like, that you can be honest about who you are. I don’t understand people who are on these sites that aren’t genuine. Those who decide that they are losers and then try to be someone that they aren’t.
I think it’s a good risk to take, and at the end of the day, at least you have met some new people. And if at the end of it, you can call those people friends, then you haven’t lost anything, have you? And who knows, you may even find Mr. Right.
Xx Determined Creature xX